Posts tagged "children"

These days I am becoming increasingly afraid of my phone. It seem every week I receive some bad news about a shocking incident or another. Each time I think ‘there can’t be anything worse than this’ something even more tragic happens. Life is really changing around me. It isn’t the same as it used to be when I was growing up and the nature of death, sadly, is becoming more and more devastating and unimaginably grotesque.

This week I learned of a distant relative going through one of the most disturbing and tragic incidents I have ever come to know. As a parent I am constantly fearful of my children’s health and safety. Not a moment goes by during my day when I am not concerned about the welfare of my children. To lose your baby, and that too at the hands of someone who you thought you could trust is something I cannot comprehend. The pain, the suffering, the shock. It is something I hope and pray no parent goes through. But these days it seems that death is becoming ever more violent and alarming. Little babies and children who dress themselves for a lovely day at school walk into a caring environment expecting nothing but happiness and fun. Their curious little minds were built for learning and joy. Babies who are left in their care of nannies, au pairs and childminders don’t ever leave their parents without a struggle. Every parent I have spoken to who has left their child with a nanny (so that they could work, mainly) has told me how utterly difficult it is and how emotionally upset they feel at having to impose separation on their child at such a young age. Parents leave their most prized possession in the trust of someone else. A baby goes to this person hoping for love, expecting nothing but care. They don’t go to be abused, hurt, upset, or worse, brutally murdered.

What is happening to the world? There is something seriously wrong with the world we live in when it’s not burglars and car thieves, bank robbers and terrorists that we need to be afraid of, but the people we are voluntarily asking to help look after our family and paying them to do so. Are people becoming so deranged that even the crying of a year old baby is enough to tick them off, sending them into fury and an abusive killing spree?

Truth be told my phone is simply the messenger through which this bad news seems to trickle into my life every week, making me wonder how long I have got, or worse, for how long my children are with me. I am under no illusion that life will always be the same, my family will remain happy forever. I try to be realistic and prepare my mind for the worst to come, but no amount of preparation of realistic mind can ever prepare you for the shock of losing a child. Unfortunately the sorry nature of the world these days means that some of us will have to. God forbid any of you ever have to go through anything remotely like this.

Pray for those around you and those who aren’t for we are completely bound by our fate, living in a bizarre world where war zones are protected and the innocent are left unprotected.

Rest in peace little souls who have departed. You are in a sanctuary now where no one can hurt you.

I absolutely love this. I saw this on a friends timeline on Facebook and just had to repost it. I wish I could be as open about it as the writer has been. In a way you don’t want friends who don’t have children to feel like you’re constantly moaning about your exhausting day, and at the same time you never want anyone to feel like you’re shoving your ‘stay at home lifestyle’ in their face either.

Truth be told people generally do have the impression that staying at home with kids is similar to baby sitting and chilling all day long. It really isn’t. I often tell my husband that I have never in my life worked so hard before. Trust me, I’ve been working since I was legally allowed to, and that’s a long time, but nothing’s been as strenuous and physically enduring as my life as a full time mother. You’re a teacher, a cook, a cleaner, a first aider, a disciplinarian, a clown, a friend, the most hated person in the world, the most loved person in the world - and you have to be all those things while someone is clinging to you, kissing you, screeching at how, crying, having a tantrum, showing you the best artwork or homework they have EVER done (look RIGHT NOW mummy or there’ll be a strop, preferably before dinner time just to make your life hell!!!) or maybe just hugging you. It’s as emotionally draining as it is physically. But, it’s great. And that’s why we’re tired all. the. time. I dread to think how working mothers do it. They’re super women to me!

So here you go; mothers, feel cherished that someone is sharing your experience for you, and feel free to reblog. Friends and children-free readers, try to understand :)

Cheerio for now x

We’ve been busy this bank holiday weekend.  Most of our time has been spent driving around to see family and friends.  With an inquisitive (and naturally, easily bored) toddler, it can be somewhat difficult to keep her entertained for long car journeys.  Especially with our baby’s car seat taking up most of the space in the back, and playing makeshift tug of war with a muslin cloth (me pulling from the front, her cheering me on in the back) only takes me so far.

I had picked up this little tray-kit for kids from Sainsbury’s a while back in the sale and I knew that it would come in handy one day, once I figured out how to use it.  One word - genius.  This product is great; it has kept my little girl entertained for those long journeys this weekend, it’s brilliant to keep snacks, which she can easily access herself and she’s spent time doing stamping, colouring, and playing with some of her little toys.  

So, if you have kids, and spend a lot of time in the car, then this is definitely one product to purchase.  The best part is that I got mine for only a tenner last year.  I’m sure you can still find an offer or two!

Happy traveling :)

We’ve been busy this bank holiday weekend. Most of our time has been spent driving around to see family and friends. With an inquisitive (and naturally, easily bored) toddler, it can be somewhat difficult to keep her entertained for long car journeys. Especially with our baby’s car seat taking up most of the space in the back, and playing makeshift tug of war with a muslin cloth (me pulling from the front, her cheering me on in the back) only takes me so far.

I had picked up this little tray-kit for kids from Sainsbury’s a while back in the sale and I knew that it would come in handy one day, once I figured out how to use it. One word - genius. This product is great; it has kept my little girl entertained for those long journeys this weekend, it’s brilliant to keep snacks, which she can easily access herself and she’s spent time doing stamping, colouring, and playing with some of her little toys.

So, if you have kids, and spend a lot of time in the car, then this is definitely one product to purchase. The best part is that I got mine for only a tenner last year. I’m sure you can still find an offer or two!

Happy traveling :)

Erm, who remembers this??? Reading “jungle ka raja” not with too much difficulty but definitely need to do some revision! #urdu #books #children #opol (Taken with Instagram)

This weekend has got to have been one of the most tiring weekends of my life.  While my other half went away for the weekend I was left alone with our (near) three year old daughter and three month old baby boy.  And it was hard.  Hard, hard, hard.  To tell the truth I only had to spend one night on my own without anyone (which, by the way wasn’t terribly difficult) and I did have adult company around me most of the time, but I honestly haven’t a clue how single parents do it all by themselves.  I had already planned quite a few ‘fun’ activities; slumber party with the cousins, movie night, golfing, spending time with the grandparents, etc., but it just wasn’t the same without their Dad.  I don’t think it ever is the same when one parent is missing.

Today I had a family friend of the in-laws come over for tea / late lunch, and her lifestyle was a bit of an eye-opener for me.  Single parent, one daughter, working all hours, totally dependent on childminders, and barely any family members to ask for support.  Her daughter was totally reliant on her and expected (quite rightly so) her mother’s undivided devotion.  Consumed by guilt that the absence of a father or male role model may lead to an inadequately adjusted young girl, this family friend had perhaps over-compensated her love towards her daughter (if there ever were such a thing as to overcompensate a parent’s love towards their child); the little girl was attached to the extent of burdensome.  It suddenly dawned upon me how naive and cocooned I have been for such a long time.  Life is so unimaginably difficult for so many families out there and yet somehow, even with family surrounding me completely I can sometimes become so restricted in my view that I can’t see beyond my own little world to realise how utterly insignificant and trivial my so-called ‘problems’ can be.  I felt bad for her, and yet in a way I felt very grateful that I still have so many people I can talk to and rely on.  People who love me and my children very much and who I can trust to help out as often as I like. 

I have suddenly have a new found respect for all lone parent families.  I salute you all.  What you bring to society is immeasurable, and I truly hope that your children take care of you in the same way you have looked after them.

Before becoming a father I worried too much about the opinions of others. Then I went out in public wearing a backpack carrying an oxygen tank attached to my son’s nose via a long plastic tube. Add to this picture standard toddler tantrums and autism-fueled verbal outbursts, and suddenly I began to think of myself and my family as a veritable freak show. That feeling lasted a short time, until it dawned on me that this is my life, this is my family, and I’m damn proud of us all. No one has to walk in my shoes, nor I in theirs, so worrying what they think of me — of us — is pointless.
Concerned about the world, we often forget the most important things in our lives; family. Michael McWatters: What I Know About Fatherhood Now That I Have A Son On The Autism Spectrum (via huffingtonpost)

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My little H, my gorgeous Z and I had a good day today - first time being alone in a LONG time and we are finally establishing some kind of routine.  I had a friend visit today and it was refreshing to see I’m not the only one finding two kids a bit of a struggle!  Z (my two-should-be-twenty-year-old) has become a rather inquisitive and talented little girl.  We did painting today and she drew her first ever smiley face (pic to be posted shortly!) H on the other hand has not been doing so well, recovering from the side-effects of having had his jabs yesterday. I don’t know about anyone else but being a second time mum doesn’t necessarily make things easier.  Every child is unique and every experience you have with them brings a new feeling.  I guess this time around is special for me in it’s own little way, and I’m enjoying every minute of it (screaming babies and all!)